"Swinging" allows couples to discover fantasies and desires as a team, enabling a greater understanding of sex which in turn permits sex to take a role in the relationship uninhibited by the usual ties to monogamy, gender roles and other boundaries assumed by couples.
Adult Dating is ust so much more fun than teenager dating. Your date doesn't have to run the parent gauntlet before you go out and you don't have to be home by 11pm. This is the time to make your own rules. Twosome, threesome, foursome, MOREsome.
Swinging IS NOT all about sex ALL the time. Being a swinger does not indicate that all we do is have sex in a crowded room with nude bodies all around us. But when we do swing/ engage in sexual encounters with others, it's for recerational sex only. Couples do not seek the qualities in partners that we once searched for in our spouse, that has been found and cannot get any better. In connecting with potential swinging partners I agree that attraction is important but, comes in many forms. Swinging places very few limits on you so why limit yourself to only those whom have always captured your attention? There is a HIGE variety of people who swing, all with an enormous array of traits to offer. Being too picky and superficial only limits you. If you close your mind to variety you are missing all the bells and whistles as well as the concept of swinging.
We have discovered that without a doubt the best way for us to "break the ice" is to become involved together as a couple first. The other couple will become involved together as well and before you know it everyone is relaxed and extremely aroused. Swapping partners seems to happen naturally creating a totally AMAZING swinging encounter.