Decide what your swinging style is.
- Closed: I don't want to be around when my partner is having sex with someone else
- Open: I love to watch and I have to watch.
- Soft: I want the appetizer to be otherskissing, heavy petting, etc. But, the main eventintercoursemust be with my partner
- Voyeur: I just want to watch, I'll have sex when I get home.
- Exhibitionist: I just want to perform for others. You can look, but don't touch.
All of these are acceptable behaviors. Just know what you want and be able to express it.
Swingers Parties are an opportunity to dress in your sexiest outfit. If you're a guy, wear what you'd wear on a first date when you are trying to impress someone. If you're a girl, it's time to bring out the Valentine underwear. Since you may spend part of the evening in the nude., it is good to bring a robe so you won't have to put all your clothing on to go to the clothed part of the Swing Club. Avoid wearing expensive jewelry which may become lost during the fun. Many Swingers Clubs have theme parties. So, dress the part, you are bringing excitement and adventure into your life, so step outside the ordinary.
"The Lifestyle", for many couples, increases happiness and contentedness in their relationship as well as a better awareness of themselves and their spouse. Many couples in the lifestyle also report more closeness, less role playing, and a more equal partnership.