The Swingers Report

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The Swinging lifestyle is place where those who know their own minds can explore and grow in ways outside the mainstream. It is not a lifestyle for the faint-hearted. You have to have big heart, a big core, to know there is enough compassion in you for many people.

For a loving couple who are unable to say, I will never have or want to have sex with anyone but you, swinging is the answer. After all if they were an artist, you wouldn't want to confine them to one color in the paintbox.

Swinging is supposed to be fun, you never want to settle for or have to "cope" with any action before, during or after a swinging encounter. It's NEVER ever too late to say "NO" Should you start to feel uncomfortable even during an encounter, STOP IT!!! If others do not understand your choice, that simply validates that you made the correct decision.

You LOVE sex. Otherwise you wouldn't be here on a swingers site, you'd be on ebay trying to score that rookie baseball card. Monogamy can be difficult when you love variety. The attraction of sexual adventure is so powerful, we can be led astray even if we are enjoying a happy marriage. Our DNA programs us for this. We feel compelled to procreate and the desire of both sexes is monogamy plus adultery.

I do not live an unexamined life. If you are reading my Girlifesto, you are also driven to search within and without to define the meaning of your existence. Choosing to walk an alternative path is not a frivolous decision. The compulsion to pursue a path not regimented by culture, society, family, or religion requires courage. It is a painful process frequently delayed by false starts, dead-ends, and the restoration needed to recover from fractured illusions.

The #1 cause of jealousy issues in the lifestyle within couples is the feeling of being "left out" Are you receiving attention in the chat room? through messenger or email? What type of attention are you receiving and what about it upsets him? Communicate with him and decide together if anything can be changed to make him feel more comfortable/accepting of the attention you receive. If he is getting upset by the typical flirting which is exchanged then I agree that the both of you need to decide together if swinging is an avenue to explore at this time. If he becomes upset because you receive attention on cam or from those making crude remarks in messenger or email, make adjustments. Agree that camming for now is off limits and simply delete emails or refuse to chat with those who are making the crude comments. Of course for him to feel more included, he must be active. He must make himself available to receive compliments just as you are. But he must also understand that men will most always compliment more boldly than women. Communicate with him honestly and set guidelines on how to proceed. The lifestyle is about experiencing new and fun adventures but if the both of you are not having fun adjustments need to be made.

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