The Swingers Report

When considering the lifestyle, the first step is to be sure that you both are fully aware of your desires in what you are seeking. Set guidelines as to what you will and will not be comfortable sharing with others. Seek others who are seeking the same and take it slowly from there.

Most clubs don't allow single males and if they do they only allow them on certain nights. Check out the swingers clubs listed on the net and contact them individually for their rules and regulations.

If you want your sex personals profile to be effective you must realize that sex is a vehicle. The destination is up to you. You can use sex as an art, a sport, a path to enlightenment, a ritual, a sacrament, an ego pig-out or a weapon, just to name a few. The important thing to know is what is it for you and are you articulating your wants/need/desires to the person/persons you are asking to get into the vehicle with you. So, know yourself. Be honest. Be real. Just being polite or nice doesn't work. Being nice is like faking orgasm, it benefits no one. Being real is more likely to help you and your partners fulfill their innermost desires. Then, remember to be kind. We are all different and when we honor each other's differences we make the world a better place.

Most Swinger clubs do not allow males to attend without a female partner. Some however do allow males to attend solo on certain nights only. I advise you to never have preconceived expectations of sexual encounters when attending any swinging function. More than likely you will leave unhappy. Attend to meet and mingle with others and if a sexual experience happens, COOL. Becoming a swinger in most instances will not deplete your sexual frustrations overnight, actually it may take time and patience to connect with added partners.

I think somebody ought to complain. Have you seen that program Wife Swap? It is excruciatingly painful to watch. What were they thinking? Why would anyone want to swap a perfectly good wife for some nightmare from across the country? Nobody seems to be having any fun. Now swingers know what wife swapping is all about. We don't look for some creature so different from us that she spends the whole time criticizing the family and in general just making a nuisance of herself. We use swinger personals to match desire, attraction, need, and humor. Why find someone who wants to rearrange your kitchen cabinets, when you can have someone snuggle up and make you totally forget about the kitchen. Sigh, well, maybe the fall season will have something we can really enjoy. :-)