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"Male Swingers", whether married or single, often find The Lifestyle to be an amazing experience. Although women usually lead in "The Swinging Lifestyle", the man is often the one to introduce their wives and/or girlfriends to The Lifestyle. Often, men that are not active in The Lifestyle would be if only they could find a partner who was ready and willing. Guilt also plays a factor in stopping men and women alike from swinging.

Many women do prefer to see face pics! A single pic of an erect cock or geeezzzz a flacid one does not indicate anything to us except that the pic is of a male. It gives us no indication about who he is. Why do guys post pics of their cocks? To impress maybe but it could also be that he honestly feels that he is supposed to do so. Women are not as visually aroused as men so to impress us, show us your face pics, your personality, make us want to see your "throbbing male wonder" lol

Swinging IS NOT all about sex ALL the time. Being a swinger does not indicate that all we do is have sex in a crowded room with nude bodies all around us. But when we do swing/ engage in sexual encounters with others, it's for recerational sex only. Couples do not seek the qualities in partners that we once searched for in our spouse, that has been found and cannot get any better. In connecting with potential swinging partners I agree that attraction is important but, comes in many forms. Swinging places very few limits on you so why limit yourself to only those whom have always captured your attention? There is a HIGE variety of people who swing, all with an enormous array of traits to offer. Being too picky and superficial only limits you. If you close your mind to variety you are missing all the bells and whistles as well as the concept of swinging.

"Male Swingers", whether married or single, often find The Lifestyle to be an amazing experience. Although women usually lead in "The Swinging Lifestyle", the man is often the one to introduce their wives and/or girlfriends to The Lifestyle. Often, men that are not active in The Lifestyle would be if only they could find a partner who was ready and willing. Guilt also plays a factor in stopping men and women alike from swinging.

While at a convention I ran accross the book, "The Ethical Slut: A Guide to Infinite Sexual Possibilities" by Dossie Easton and Catherine A. Liszt (a pseudonym of Janet Hardy), and realized someone had written just what I believed in my heart; that it was possible to be free in my sexual behaviour while still maintaining an ethical standard.

This book is funny and smart and informative. Wikipedia has a whole article about it.

Here are some excerpts from the book:

"We are particularly in favor of multiple partners having a chance to meet each other, or at least hear about each other, to dispel our self-created mythology that the other person is younger, thinner, sexier, etc. You might be surprised, when you meet your lover's lover, to find the experience downright reassuring. "

"We believe that it is fundamentally a radical political act to deprivatize sex. So much oppression in our culture is based on shame about sex: the oppression of women, of cultural minorities, oppression in the name of the (presumably asexual) family, oppression of sexual minorities. We are all oppressed. We have all been taught, one way or another, that our desires, our bodies, our sexualities, are shameful. What better way to defeat oppression than to get together in communities and celebrate the wonders of sex? "

"A ring around the finger does not cause a nerve block to the genitals. "

"A slut shares her sexuality the way a philanthropist shares his money because they have a lot to share, because it makes them happy to share it, because sharing makes the world a better place. "

""Easy": Is there, we wonder, some value in being difficult? "

"It is amazing to us to think ... that most people in our culture have never had a chance to watch another person enjoy sex. No wonder we worry so much about our appearance. "

For a loving couple who are unable to say, I will never have or want to have sex with anyone but you, swinging is the answer. After all if they were an artist, you wouldn't want to confine them to one color in the paintbox.

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