The Swingers Report

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Swinging has been around for a long time. There were periods in ancient Rome when it was quite popular. Julia, the daughter of the Emperor Augustus was famous/infamous for her dalliances. People were always surprised that all five of her children looked just like her husband. She replied, "Well that's because I never take on a passenger unless I already have a full cargo," meaning that she waited until she was already pregnant before playing around. We are very lucky in our society to have control over our sexuality and procreation.

"Male Swingers", whether married or single, often find The Lifestyle to be an amazing experience. Although women usually lead in "The Swinging Lifestyle", the man is often the one to introduce their wives and/or girlfriends to The Lifestyle. Often, men that are not active in The Lifestyle would be if only they could find a partner who was ready and willing. Guilt also plays a factor in stopping men and women alike from swinging.

Swinging is a social activity. Ordinary social customs of being polite, initiating conversations, being a good listener, and the ability to form friendships are all needed characteristics to enjoy your Swing Cub experience. Before you go, discuss the desired outcome of the evening with your partner. Are you comfortable saying yes and if one says know will your partner back you up and not try to coerce you? What sort of safety precautions will you take? Be prepared. Don't rely on someone else to guard your life. If you have friends who attend a club, try to go with them a few times. It will help you to not be nervous.

Unless you had a set guideline that in a party setting the 2 of you would swing as a cpl, neither of you are at fault. To get past this, do not place blame. Communicate with one another concerning where events went wrong and decide on what you need to do as a cpl to prevent this from happening again in the future. I cannot stress enough the importance of setting guidelines and sticking to them. It's only human nature to place blame when something goes wrong but a healthy swinging relationship has no room for pointing fingers. With set guidelines there is no margin of error and everyone has a good time.

Swingers Parties are an opportunity to dress in your sexiest outfit. If you're a guy, wear what you'd wear on a first date when you are trying to impress someone. If you're a girl, it's time to bring out the Valentine underwear. Since you may spend part of the evening in the nude., it is good to bring a robe so you won't have to put all your clothing on to go to the clothed part of the Swing Club. Avoid wearing expensive jewelry which may become lost during the fun. Many Swingers Clubs have theme parties. So, dress the part, you are bringing excitement and adventure into your life, so step outside the ordinary.

For a loving couple who are unable to say, I will never have or want to have sex with anyone but you, swinging is the answer. After all if they were an artist, you wouldn't want to confine them to one color in the paintbox.

First please allow me to say that becoming involved in the swinging lifestyle seeking something that a spouse isn't capable of giving, will not give or thinks he/she cannot give is risky and is swinging for ALL the wrong reasons. You both need to communicate and understand this. This alone is a basis for halting your swinging activities. Try to make him understand that you do not feel a need to be "taken care of" that the pressure to perform is becoming overwhelming for you. Communicate together on techniques that can be learned to enhance your intimacy together. There are many solutions leading to sexual pleasure in dealing with health issues. Seek those solutions together and help him to gain his self esteem back. Swinging is the very last thing that your relationship needs at this point. Allow him to see this forum, hopefully it will assist in helping him to understand your feelings.

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