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Swinging has been around for a long time. There were periods in ancient Rome when it was quite popular. Julia, the daughter of the Emperor Augustus was famous/infamous for her dalliances. People were always surprised that all five of her children looked just like her husband. She replied, "Well that's because I never take on a passenger unless I already have a full cargo," meaning that she waited until she was already pregnant before playing around. We are very lucky in our society to have control over our sexuality and procreation.
Stranger in a Strange Land by Robert Heinlein published in 1961, won the 1962 Hugo Award This was the first book I ever read that had swingers in it. Well, it wasn't called swinging, but the orgies and communal living certainly inspired the generation who decided to throw off the shackles of conventional sexuality. It is considered to be the most socially influential book ever written by Robert Heinlein. The main character, Valentine Michael Smith was the child of the first Mars expedition. The crew died on Mars and he was raised by Martians. When he returns to Earth in his twenties, he is human in appearance, but culturally an alien. His otherworldly views and experiences take a hard look at human behavior. It asks why do we do the things we do and should we continue in the same way. Politics, religion, sexuality, marriage are all examined through alien eyes. The book actually spawned a pagan church. It made me think about what I do and why I do it. When I read it, I was still in a very narrow minded church. Though I continued in the religion another 15 years, it did change how I looked at religion. I decided that religion was like being made into a bonsai tree. My essential nature could not be changed. A maple is a maple is a maple. What I hoped was that the strictures and limitations of my church could be used to concentrate and distill my essence into something beautiful. A polyamorous couple is a couple who adds others to their lives for not only recreational sex. There is more of an emotional attachment/love between all involved. Although there are many polyamorous swingers, practicing in polyamory one should be aware of the different guidelines that may not apply to basic swinging.
I must say though that yes, jealousy is present within the lifestyle and just because one may have jealousy issues, it does not indicate that they do not have a place within the swinging community. Jealousy for most can be dealt with using baby steps and proper guidance. Hiding it and denying it is what causes the drama.
Swinging is a social activity. Ordinary social customs of being polite, initiating conversations, being a good listener, and the ability to form friendships are all needed characteristics to enjoy your Swing Cub experience. Before you go, discuss the desired outcome of the evening with your partner. Are you comfortable saying yes and if one says know will your partner back you up and not try to coerce you? What sort of safety precautions will you take? Be prepared. Don't rely on someone else to guard your life. If you have friends who attend a club, try to go with them a few times. It will help you to not be nervous.
DP for those who may not know means double penetration. If you are not already comfortable with being penetrated anally, I DO NOT advise you to try double penetration. But if you enjoy anal sex already, GO FOR IT! Get into a position which is best for all, relax and as stated above, use much lubricant. If the action becomes too overwhelming, stop, take a deep breath and decide if you wish to continue. DP can be extremely erotic and enjoyable for all. ENJOY!
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