The Swinging lifestyle is place where those who know their own minds can explore and grow in ways outside the mainstream. It is not a lifestyle for the faint-hearted. You have to have big heart, a big core, to know there is enough compassion in you for many people.
Rules are often set between partners prior to "swinging". "No means No" is a rule that ALL swingers should follow. But other rules can be set about respect, jealousy, privacy, and even code words or signs.
Swinging is supposed to be fun, you never want to settle for or have to "cope" with any action before, during or after a swinging encounter. It's NEVER ever too late to say "NO" Should you start to feel uncomfortable even during an encounter, STOP IT!!! If others do not understand your choice, that simply validates that you made the correct decision.
"Jealousy" can be a harsh reality in The Lifestyle. Both men and women should be on guard, as they could become jealous as soon as their swinging fantasy becomes a reality and they watch as their spouse begin to fondle or even flirt with another person. Many couples are able to work through the jealousy and get to a place where they really enjoy swinging.