Swinging is a social activity. Ordinary social customs of being polite, initiating conversations, being a good listener, and the ability to form friendships are all needed characteristics to enjoy your Swing Cub experience. Before you go, discuss the desired outcome of the evening with your partner. Are you comfortable saying yes and if one says know will your partner back you up and not try to coerce you? What sort of safety precautions will you take? Be prepared. Don't rely on someone else to guard your life. If you have friends who attend a club, try to go with them a few times. It will help you to not be nervous.
"Tossing a salad" sexually speaking, is the act of licking the anal opening. Some also consider this to be a form of "rimming"
The swingers lifestyle allows you to have sexual variety in the context of a happy marriage; promotes the desirability of each in the eyes of the other; removes the betrayal of deceit; provides sexual opportunities not available to singles; thereby, removing a major cause of break-ups. As you provide each other with their deepest fantasies, swingers can and do make their marriages stronger.
Decide what your swinging style is.
- Closed: I don't want to be around when my partner is having sex with someone else
- Open: I love to watch and I have to watch.
- Soft: I want the appetizer to be otherskissing, heavy petting, etc. But, the main eventintercoursemust be with my partner
- Voyeur: I just want to watch, I'll have sex when I get home.
- Exhibitionist: I just want to perform for others. You can look, but don't touch.
All of these are acceptable behaviors. Just know what you want and be able to express it.