Swingers sex activities are as variable and multi-faceted as swingers are. Exhibitionists enjoy having sex with others while their partner watches. Voyeurs are aroused by watching their partners have sex with other people. Some encounters may only include kissing and caressing. Some include oral activities, many involve penetrative sex. A good experience is based on willingness to be honest in your communication and honoring whatever you negotiate.
Swinging IS NOT all about sex ALL the time. Being a swinger does not indicate that all we do is have sex in a crowded room with nude bodies all around us. But when we do swing/ engage in sexual encounters with others, it's for recerational sex only. Couples do not seek the qualities in partners that we once searched for in our spouse, that has been found and cannot get any better. In connecting with potential swinging partners I agree that attraction is important but, comes in many forms. Swinging places very few limits on you so why limit yourself to only those whom have always captured your attention? There is a HIGE variety of people who swing, all with an enormous array of traits to offer. Being too picky and superficial only limits you. If you close your mind to variety you are missing all the bells and whistles as well as the concept of swinging.