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"Swing Clubs" are one of the best ways to get started in "swinging". There are many different types of "Swing Clubs" and "Swingers Groups". You can find them online and offline. Some charge and some are free. The online "Swingers Clubs" come in the form of personals, message boards, and even chat rooms. The offline "Swingers Clubs" can be anything from a group of swingers that meet in a private home to a full scale, full service club with hot tubs, lounges, bars, and sex rooms. Some swingers groups and clubs meet in local hotels or bars. Off-premise clubs are for meeting other swingers only. If you want to have sex with anyone, you must make arrangements to meet somewhere else. On-premise clubs have locations for you to engage in sex with the members or guests of the club or group.

While at a convention I ran accross the book, "The Ethical Slut: A Guide to Infinite Sexual Possibilities" by Dossie Easton and Catherine A. Liszt (a pseudonym of Janet Hardy), and realized someone had written just what I believed in my heart; that it was possible to be free in my sexual behaviour while still maintaining an ethical standard.

This book is funny and smart and informative. Wikipedia has a whole article about it.

Here are some excerpts from the book:

"We are particularly in favor of multiple partners having a chance to meet each other, or at least hear about each other, to dispel our self-created mythology that the other person is younger, thinner, sexier, etc. You might be surprised, when you meet your lover's lover, to find the experience downright reassuring. "

"We believe that it is fundamentally a radical political act to deprivatize sex. So much oppression in our culture is based on shame about sex: the oppression of women, of cultural minorities, oppression in the name of the (presumably asexual) family, oppression of sexual minorities. We are all oppressed. We have all been taught, one way or another, that our desires, our bodies, our sexualities, are shameful. What better way to defeat oppression than to get together in communities and celebrate the wonders of sex? "

"A ring around the finger does not cause a nerve block to the genitals. "

"A slut shares her sexuality the way a philanthropist shares his money because they have a lot to share, because it makes them happy to share it, because sharing makes the world a better place. "

""Easy": Is there, we wonder, some value in being difficult? "

"It is amazing to us to think ... that most people in our culture have never had a chance to watch another person enjoy sex. No wonder we worry so much about our appearance. "

Adult Dating is ust so much more fun than teenager dating. Your date doesn't have to run the parent gauntlet before you go out and you don't have to be home by 11pm. This is the time to make your own rules. Twosome, threesome, foursome, MOREsome.

Swinging IS NOT all about sex ALL the time. Being a swinger does not indicate that all we do is have sex in a crowded room with nude bodies all around us. But when we do swing/ engage in sexual encounters with others, it's for recerational sex only. Couples do not seek the qualities in partners that we once searched for in our spouse, that has been found and cannot get any better. In connecting with potential swinging partners I agree that attraction is important but, comes in many forms. Swinging places very few limits on you so why limit yourself to only those whom have always captured your attention? There is a HIGE variety of people who swing, all with an enormous array of traits to offer. Being too picky and superficial only limits you. If you close your mind to variety you are missing all the bells and whistles as well as the concept of swinging.

When considering the lifestyle, the first step is to be sure that you both are fully aware of your desires in what you are seeking. Set guidelines as to what you will and will not be comfortable sharing with others. Seek others who are seeking the same and take it slowly from there.

Swinging IS NOT all about sex ALL the time. Being a swinger does not indicate that all we do is have sex in a crowded room with nude bodies all around us. But when we do swing/ engage in sexual encounters with others, it's for recerational sex only. Couples do not seek the qualities in partners that we once searched for in our spouse, that has been found and cannot get any better. In connecting with potential swinging partners I agree that attraction is important but, comes in many forms. Swinging places very few limits on you so why limit yourself to only those whom have always captured your attention? There is a HIGE variety of people who swing, all with an enormous array of traits to offer. Being too picky and superficial only limits you. If you close your mind to variety you are missing all the bells and whistles as well as the concept of swinging.

Swingers sex activities are as variable and multi-faceted as swingers are. Exhibitionists enjoy having sex with others while their partner watches. Voyeurs are aroused by watching their partners have sex with other people. Some encounters may only include kissing and caressing. Some include oral activities, many involve penetrative sex. A good experience is based on willingness to be honest in your communication and honoring whatever you negotiate.

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