"Jealousy" can be a harsh reality in The Lifestyle. Both men and women should be on guard, as they could become jealous as soon as their swinging fantasy becomes a reality and they watch as their spouse begin to fondle or even flirt with another person. Many couples are able to work through the jealousy and get to a place where they really enjoy swinging.
"The Lifestyle", for many couples, increases happiness and contentedness in their relationship as well as a better awareness of themselves and their spouse. Many couples in the lifestyle also report more closeness, less role playing, and a more equal partnership.
Swinging IS NOT all about sex ALL the time. Being a swinger does not indicate that all we do is have sex in a crowded room with nude bodies all around us. But when we do swing/ engage in sexual encounters with others, it's for recerational sex only. Couples do not seek the qualities in partners that we once searched for in our spouse, that has been found and cannot get any better. In connecting with potential swinging partners I agree that attraction is important but, comes in many forms. Swinging places very few limits on you so why limit yourself to only those whom have always captured your attention? There is a HIGE variety of people who swing, all with an enormous array of traits to offer. Being too picky and superficial only limits you. If you close your mind to variety you are missing all the bells and whistles as well as the concept of swinging.