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While at a convention I ran accross the book, "The Ethical Slut: A Guide to Infinite Sexual Possibilities" by Dossie Easton and Catherine A. Liszt (a pseudonym of Janet Hardy), and realized someone had written just what I believed in my heart; that it was possible to be free in my sexual behaviour while still maintaining an ethical standard.

This book is funny and smart and informative. Wikipedia has a whole article about it.

Here are some excerpts from the book:

"We are particularly in favor of multiple partners having a chance to meet each other, or at least hear about each other, to dispel our self-created mythology that the other person is younger, thinner, sexier, etc. You might be surprised, when you meet your lover's lover, to find the experience downright reassuring. "

"We believe that it is fundamentally a radical political act to deprivatize sex. So much oppression in our culture is based on shame about sex: the oppression of women, of cultural minorities, oppression in the name of the (presumably asexual) family, oppression of sexual minorities. We are all oppressed. We have all been taught, one way or another, that our desires, our bodies, our sexualities, are shameful. What better way to defeat oppression than to get together in communities and celebrate the wonders of sex? "

"A ring around the finger does not cause a nerve block to the genitals. "

"A slut shares her sexuality the way a philanthropist shares his money because they have a lot to share, because it makes them happy to share it, because sharing makes the world a better place. "

""Easy": Is there, we wonder, some value in being difficult? "

"It is amazing to us to think ... that most people in our culture have never had a chance to watch another person enjoy sex. No wonder we worry so much about our appearance. "

Before attempting anal penetration, be sure you are comfortable,relaxed and at a very heightened state of arousal, ready to orgasm. Sexual Health studies advise MUCH clit stimulation while learning to relax for anal penetration. Also, this stimulation should be performed by YOU or someone who is fully aware of how you like it. Once you are there, ready to explode, your mind and body is ready for just about ANYTHING and the discomfort that at first accompanies anal penetration, you will welcome. Sooo, get that clit hard & ready, use PLENTY of purchased lube, have your partner loosten you up with his fingers (fingers are more gentle than toys) once he slides in, take a deep breath, relax and don't freak when you feel the discomfort caused by the many nerve endings it doesn't last long at all. Allow yourself to orgasm through your clit stimulation and ENJOY! If you orgasm quickly after entry, it's okay to have him remove his penis. Remember, this is a new experience and may take several attempts as well as a patient partner to get you to the point of total enjoyment and full orgasm by anal penetration alone.

Seeing your spouse pleasuring and being pleasured by someone else can be a real eye opener, it can be difficult the first time. I agree that as a couple you should not be looking for something better than what you have in your relationship together but you must prepare yourselves for the reactions that you will see in your spouse/partner from the pleasures of a possible new technique by an added swinging partner. In making love together there are times, depending on your sexual positions that you cannot see the expressions of your spouse. Prepare yourselves for these expressions when seeing him/her with an added partner. One enhancement while swinging that my husband loves is that he has the opportunity to see me fully in positions with others, allowing him to see ALL of my expressions that maybe he has missed when he and I are alone making love together. Do not expect to be totally comfortable the first time but if swinnging is for you, you will continue to look toward your next experience.

Stranger in a Strange Land by Robert Heinlein published in 1961, won the 1962 Hugo Award

This was the first book I ever read that had swingers in it. Well, it wasn't called swinging, but the orgies and communal living certainly inspired the generation who decided to throw off the shackles of conventional sexuality. It is considered to be the most socially influential book ever written by Robert Heinlein.

The main character, Valentine Michael Smith was the child of the first Mars expedition. The crew died on Mars and he was raised by Martians. When he returns to Earth in his twenties, he is human in appearance, but culturally an alien. His otherworldly views and experiences take a hard look at human behavior. It asks why do we do the things we do and should we continue in the same way. Politics, religion, sexuality, marriage are all examined through alien eyes. The book actually spawned a pagan church.

It made me think about what I do and why I do it. When I read it, I was still in a very narrow minded church. Though I continued in the religion another 15 years, it did change how I looked at religion. I decided that religion was like being made into a bonsai tree. My essential nature could not be changed. A maple is a maple is a maple. What I hoped was that the strictures and limitations of my church could be used to concentrate and distill my essence into something beautiful.

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