Cheating is not only ugly, cheating IS NOT swinging! Couples in the lifestyle ARE NOT looking for something better or for what attracts one to cheat. The excitement couples experience when swinging together is most euphoric and surpasses any erotic feeling that could possibly be felt while cheating.
"Tossing a salad" sexually speaking, is the act of licking the anal opening. Some also consider this to be a form of "rimming"
"Swinging" allows couples to discover fantasies and desires as a team, enabling a greater understanding of sex which in turn permits sex to take a role in the relationship uninhibited by the usual ties to monogamy, gender roles and other boundaries assumed by couples.